Tuesday, September 1, 2015

Serenity, Heat Waves and approaching Autumn

So, it has been a while since I have posted to the blog, but that's really okay because I wasn't out of my serenity zone for the summertime, now that fall is approaching it's time to do some re-evaluating of my serenity zones.

Summer was an interested time for me - it was filled with preparations that will lead up to a joyous event - a wedding (not mine but my daughter's).  It has been filled with parties, dress and shoe shopping (never a bad thing in my opinion), menu selections, guest lists and invitations and time lines. Surprisingly in the world of event planning most everything, so far has gone off without too much of a hitch.  When we began this process I was determined to allow the couple as much choice as they wanted within reason of a budget.

In doing this I discovered something things about myself that I hadn't realized.  One, I really didn't like my wedding (I love the groom - now my husband of 33 years) and if I had to do it over again there would be a lot I would have changed, but then again - hindsight is always 20/20.  I allowed everyone that was around me to make all of the decisions and abdicated all of my power from day one, that was on me and me alone and two I have found that I had no issue with giving up my now usual control of situations, as it relates to this wedding.

I have learned over the past few years of looking into myself that while there were times that I had to be in control of everything around me, I also seemed to allow people to determine my fate and subjugate to the wishes of those people without ever questioning the why.  I don't know why I did that except perhaps it was an issue of fear, always being afraid of being wrong or not be liked or disappointing my parents, my friends, etcetera.   If you don't try, you don't get hurt.

In retrospect I believe that it has now made me a stronger person, one who believes in herself, one who has the determination to move forward in life with a belief in finding the way to live a life that has meaning, that has adventure, that's filled with joy.

So keep cool in this September heat wave, because soon the daylight will be much shorter and the coolness of Autumn will be upon us.  Leaves will fall from the trees, there will be a crispness in the air, beautiful mums will bloom, joy and serenity will surround us for the season.

How can it not when the upcoming months will be filled with wedding bells or this case violins, music and love?

Be fulfilled with the Serenity that surrounds you!


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