Serenity, Holidays and the Upcoming New Year

So we are In the season of merriment, lots of family and lots of noise, lots of eating, lots of drinking, lots of blinking bright lights and lots of stress if you let it in.  The key is to find a way to minimize the stress by letting in serenity.

I actually love this time of year.  I love seeing the lights, seeing kids trying their best to behave, seeing adults passing each other on the street wishing each other happy holidays and wondering why does this only happen in December, why can't we be pleasant all year long?

I love the cold, not too too cold, but the brisk air.  It seems to bring out the best in people, but what I don't understand is the greed associated with this time of year, actually I don't understand the greed that this country has possessed over the past few years.  Why has this season become only about how much stuff we have?

I think that as the year draws to a close we should seriously look inside of ourselves and take stock of what matters most to us.

Speaking for myself, it has been a year filled with joy, sadness, some confusion, some health issues and learning that I'm quite happy with who I have become over the past few years.  It has been eye opening to learn that the only way to find serenity is to be okay with who I am, how I look and not be bothered with people who constantly want to change me.  I've learned to stick up for myself because sometimes I'm the only one who will.  My opinion matters even if it's only to me, but I'm not going to shy away from expressing my opinion nor will I back down and cower when someone disagrees with me.  Their opinion is just as important and I will always listen and sometimes I will agree and sometimes not but that's okay.

So for the end of 2017, look inward and find the joys of the year that has come to a close and look forward to 2018.  Take a deep deep breath, close your eyes, inhale the smells of the foods and aromas that surround you, listen to the sounds of friends and family and you will find your serenity.  I know that I always do.

JOY TO THE WORLD, LET'S FIND PEACE, JOY, BEAUTY AND SERENITY IN THE CLOSE OF 2017 AND THE YEAR TO COME!

Serenity, Cold weather, Family and Food

So many of my recent posts have been about enjoying the outdoors, sitting on my deck, letting the sun warm my face or enjoying the serenity of a sunset, but what do we do when November comes around and we are faced with cold rain, winds, dampness and grey skies?

I'm finding that I can find serenity in many other ways.  Perhaps it's sitting quietly in a comfy chair, with music on the sound bar, a cup of tea in my hand and my Kindle app with a romance novel or a classic book.  Or perhaps it's simply looking out the patio doors watching the winds pick up leaves and scatter them randomly in the yard, watching the rain and knowing that I'm inside and warm and on the rare occasion that it's actually clear, it can be a magnificent sunset that I photograph with a warm jacket on or simply enjoying through the patio doors.

November also brings Thanksgiving, a holiday that can be filled with serenity if you know where to find it. 

I think that it possible to find serenity in a room crowded with noise, crowded with family and crowded with food.  How you might ask? Well, here's what I think, take a deep breath, look around you and locate the love, friendship and happiness that family and friends can bring you.  Take a deep breath and smell the food that has been prepared with passion for cooking and close your eyes and remember all of those people who are no longer with us on this earth and I have no doubt that you will find some measure of serenity.

So, for the next few days, just enjoy, take a breath and find the serenity, the love and the joys that will surround you.

HAVE A BEAUTIFUL THANKSGIVING, FILLED WITH SERENE MOMENTS!

Finding Serenity in Beauty

Over the past several weeks I have found a passion to photograph sunsets and once in a great while sunrise.  There is just full beauty and a lasting serenity in a magnificent sunset.

When I look at the photos I have taken I'm overwhelmed by the simple beauty of a sunset.  I look at the sky and wonder how this color spectrum appears and why is it different every time.  I don't really want technical answers to these questions but would rather enjoy the complexity of each sunset.

When you look at these 2 photos taken this past week how can you not find wonder, beauty and serenity in sunsets.

My recommendation take a moment this week to go outside at sunset and just enjoy the beauty, the quiet and the absolute wonder that surrounds you.

Have an amazing week-filled with colors, with beauty, with serenity and with joy.

Serenity in Times of Ending and Change

A little over a month ago we said our final goodbyes to a beautiful woman, my mother.  She was a woman who went out of her way to find the best in people, everyone was her friend and everyone was equal in her eyes.  Now we have the difficult task of packing up her apartment and parting with her things.

For the past couple of weeks my sister and I at various times have gone to the apartment to bag up her clothes(donate), box up collectibles for distribution to her grandchildren and children, find an organization to donate the furniture to and box up art and books.  I am surprised at how difficult this has been emotionally, when I called to cancel her phone and internet service I burst into tears when I called to check if it was done and I heard that voice say the number was no longer in service.

So how do you find serenity when it's a time filled with emotional upheaval? 

I'm doing what I need to do, I take time for myself, I stop when it gets to be too much and step back, take a deep breath and close my eyes and just remember the times with my mother when she laughed, when she smiled, when she cooked and when she was surrounded by family and friends.  This brings me serenity and fills my soul with joy of memories.

So when things get tough emotionally I think the best way to locate your serenity is to simply take a step back, breath as deeply as possible, close your eyes and let the memories overtake you.  It will lighten your spirit and help move you forward to the next box that needs packing.

My mother of blessed memory was all about learning and giving back.  In this time of rebuilding from the devastating hurricanes and earthquakes, I implore you to take a moment to find a way to make a difference, donate your time or better yet donate money.

Take a moment to look at the good that surrounds you and close your eyes and realize how lucky you are.

Locate your serenity and breath deeply.

Finding Serenity when a Beautiful Person Person Passes Away

How can someone find serenity when a beloved member of their family passes away?

On Sunday, my beautiful mother slipped gracefully into full serenity where pain and suffering is no longer a part of life.

My mother was basically the Energizer Bunny, no matter what was thrown her way she kept moving forward.  She was one of those rare individuals who put others before herself.  At the age of 88 she was still visiting residents in the assisting living area of her complex to make sure they had a friendly face, a smile and a short chat, but that was nothing new to her, it's what she did her entire life, even before she had a husband and children.

Religion and God were an essential part of my mother's daily life.  She was a teacher, a lay leader and a primary example of how to be a caring human being.  I am positive that her belief system is what enabled her to live her life to the fullest, helping and caring about those who surrounded her.

For the past week I have struggled to take a deep breathe and locate my serenity.  In the quiet moments, I try to remember her funnier moments, her caring attitude, her beautiful smile, how she was always dressed immaculately, no matter where she went.  It's in these moments I find a little serenity.

I believe that my mother is now with my father, her sisters, his brothers, their colleagues and friends who have all left this earth and is enjoying stimulating discussion groups, learning sessions and book reviews.  Somebody asked me recently if I believe in reincarnation, I don't really think so but I do believe that there is an afterlife of some sort.

So, how do I find my serenity during this time of grief?  I remember the love, the caring, the beauty and the fact that my mother always moved forward.  The past is something we should learn from, but not dwell on.

I am taking deep deep breaths and finding serenity in the memory of my mother.

Finding Serenity in times of disasters, in times of devastation and times of heroism.

I am sitting here watching and listening to the devastating events that are currently happening in Texas and through all this devastation the news is filled with stories of hope and heroism.

So when you are surrounded by these events how do you find any serenity?  How do you find serenity when your home is underwater, how do find serenity when your approaching exhaustion, how do find serenity when you are inundated with the unknown?

You find your serenity in a single moment. You find your serenity in knowing that you have survived, that your family are in a safe place, that life will go forward at some point.  Houses, clothes, electronics, etc are just things, things that can be replaced, home is where you are with your loved ones surrounding you, it's not a place, it's an idea.  Keep this in mind, keep this in your heart and you will find your serenity.

I will keep the people of Houston, Corpus Christi and the surrounding areas in my heart and I ask my readers to please think about opening your hearts and your wallets to donate to causes that will help families, pets, medical, etc.

Find your serenity by taking each moment at time.  Take a deep cleansing breath and look to those loved ones around you for a hug.  Hugs will bring smiles and smiles will bring you serenity.

Be a hero by finding your serenity and then helping others locate theirs.

Serenity, Stars, Family and Fish

I have just returned from a long weekend up in the mountains near a small lake where I spent a lot of time surrounded by my husband, my kids and by nature.  It was very much needed and very much appreciated.

Over this past month I have been feeling a little overwhelmed about an upcoming project that has potential to life changing for urban communities that are in flux.  It's exciting and a little terrifying at the same time, so the idea of spending time away from my home office and my laptop was very appealing.  I tried very hard to only connect with WIFI when I needed to check out something the kids suggested and I did use my IPad for reading on my Kindle app.  I have to say it wasn't that difficult to disconnect and I highly recommend that everyone try to disconnect from technology every so often.  You'll find it freeing.

My time was spent watching the lake, watching the sunset, watching the deer (who apparently are so used the people that they barely acknowledge our presence), and watching the stars.  It was a joy to watch my now adult children interact with each other as equals, laughing and conversing about relevant topics, music and podcasts.  It was a joy to watch my husband with fishing rod in his hands lazily casting out into in the lake, he didn't even care that the only thing his was catching was lake grass.

I am finding that this need to periodically disconnect from the turbulent world that surrounds us is a great way to maintain my serenity and although this long weekend was in the mountains, I am absolutely positive that I can find a way to disconnect in my own backyard.

As the world around us becomes more and more derisive, we all need to take a step back, disconnect, breathe deep and find our serenity and in case you are in need of some help I have attached a photo I took of a beautiful sunset on Saturday evening.